Be Aware Of Your Body Language
It May Tell A Different Story Than Your Words

A complete technology surrounds this subject. I am not qualified to go into it at that level of detail; all I wish to do is to encourage you to be aware of its importance. While facing someone with your arms and legs crossed, think about how you feel about that person. Your body language is saying "I do not wish to be open with you". Consciously or subconsciously you are sending the message, and it is probably being received. Slouching is another style that seems to say either "I don't care", or "I don't think I am very important. A clear signal of aggressiveness or defiance is hands on the hips.

Eye contact is another major aspect of body language. When someone talks to me and doesn't look me in the eye, I know there is something very different going on with this person ..... they are not being open, or honest, with me. It is hard to look someone in the eye and not tell the truth.

When I change my body posture, (from closed to open for example), I find that my attitude toward the person changes. Stay conscious of what you are communicating, and take advantage of the body language messages being sent by other persons.

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