| The leader of
a seminar I once took commented on how each of us think we are a little
smarter than the average person and automatically think we are a little
(or more) superior. The mind blower was when he had us look at the person
to our left, then the person to our right, and realize both of them felt
superior to ME! I have concluded that from this built-in feeling of superiority
has grown the need to offer advice to others, whether they need it or
not!
If advice is to be given, what is needed is to first get agreement from the other person that:
When children are young they have a large appetite for receiving advice, and most often look to parents and other adults as their coaches. No problem. As they get older and become adults they lose their built-in appetite
for coaching. When unsolicited advice is given, big problem. There are
few more distasteful interactions than receiving advice you didn't ask
for. I strongly recommend you get agreement on the two above items before
you jump into the advice giving business. |
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