| When I was first
married I was fortunate to be with a person very good at keeping in touch
with others by telephone and mail. We had a satisfying set of friends.
When I became single again I wasn't very disciplined about keeping in
touch and I soon found my circle of friends and acquaintances was shrinking
rapidly. I also knew it had nothing to do with a change in how people
felt about me. It's just that people are busy with the tasks of everyday
life and it is easy to let a friendship lapse.
For relationship to mature I find people must DO things together; just
being together is not enough. Taking trips, playing games, and participating
in organizations are example of things that can enrich a friendship.
Relationships don't just stay the same over time all by themselves.
They have to be tended like plants. |
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