| At a self improvement
seminar I attended I found most of the 100 or so people in the group were
faceless to me, but a smaller group of a dozen or so were very real to
me. The difference was that the later group chose to be open and share
very personal, in-depth items with the group. Box-score 90 faceless, 10
real. I remember one case in particular. The man was an older business
man who was a bit of a trouble maker to the group, (and easy to ignore),
until the final day when he shared with the group how he got in touch
with what was going on with him. He stated he had been unable to see that
he was very much afraid of dying, and was also fearful of admitting that
to anyone. He saw that his behavior was driven by this fear and it blocked
him from living in the present. The revelation was so touching that everyone's
heart went out to him. After the meeting many people wanted to talk with
him (including me). He was REAL to us.
His ability to share his insight with the group was based partially
on his observation, over time, that the group could be trusted. Once
the trust was established, the sharing could take place. Once the sharing
took place, he became real to all of us. |
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