Children Don't Come From You, They Come Through You

So often I hear parents taking credit for how smart their children are, or how good looking. As if they had anything to do with it. The environment and training provided by good parents have a powerful effect on the children, but they arrived in the world with a set of capabilities the parents had nothing to do with. Parents are merely the chosen messengers to take the complete child given to them, and to deliver that child in good shape into adulthood.

The flip side also applies. If a child is mentally retarded, or some other flaw, the parents had little to do with it unless drugs or poor diet were involved. It's not their fault and they shouldn't spend time punishing themselves.

Take credit for what you accomplished, and give credit elsewhere for things you had little to do with.

©  2002 John D. Toellner, All Rights Reserved