If A Disagreement Exists And One Person Admits To The Other He Was Wrong And The Other Person Rejects Him Who Is The Big Person And Who Is The Little One?

One of the strange by-products of our culture is the feeling that admitting you are wrong is an expression of failure or weakness. I think it is just the other way around. It is an act of courage to go to someone and admit you are wrong and hence to lay the groundwork for a good ongoing relationship. If the other person rejects this approach it could easily be an expression of their wanting to stubbornly stay on it. Viewed form a distance: 1) who is the big person, and 2) who is being petty?

Also seen in this process is the difference between being in full charge of your life and how things turn out, versus being the victim and depending on others' actions to make your life work.

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