Most Relationships Would Improve Overnight If Both People Would Clearly State What It Would Take To Make It With Them

The human race must enjoy guessing games versus having things run smoothly, judging from the way they act. A person in a relationship normally has a fairly clear idea of what they expect from the other person (or all other persons) but for some reason they expect the other person to know what these expectations are. It is most frustrating to try one thing after another to please another person and to have none of them work. How much better to have the other person state simply and clearly what their expectations are, and then let the person do their thing to meet them.

If what you want is not clear to you, the process of telling others will be very difficult. Maybe it's time for hard thinking, coaching, or counseling, to better understand yourself so others will have a chance to understand you.

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